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The Strength of Male Friendships: Why Having Good Mates Matters There’s something powerful about a mate who checks in on you, isn’t there? Someone who asks, “How are you, really?” and sticks around for the answer. As men, we do better in teams—on the football pitch, in the gym class, at work. We motivate each other to lift more, run faster, and sometimes even to keep going when things get tough. But when it comes to our mental health, too many of us try to go it alone. We con

Recently a person who became aware of my book " The Bulletproof Banker " through my posts on LinkedIn and who was thinking of making a purchase decided to ask Chat GPT about my book, below is what they were told by AI and they purchased the book and have messaged me to say they have really enjoyed it .  "The Bulletproof Banker is a powerful, personal account of resilience in the high-stakes world of banking, told through the lens of the author’s extraordinary experiences. It

The Hidden Cost of Success in Corporate Life Success comes with a price. Are you paying too much? In the corporate world, success is often measured by long hours, promotions, and financial gain. But what about the costs no one talks about? Health : Stress, sleepless nights, and skipped workouts. The price is paid with your body. Family : Missed milestones, strained relationships, and emotional distance from the people who matter most. Friendships : The “I’ll call them later”

Worrying About Tomorrow? Don’t Miss Today. Worry, we convince ourselves that by ruminating and turning things over and over in our minds, we convince ourselves we are being productive with our time and we believe we are taking time to solving potential issues. But the real truth is, worry is just a misuse of our view into the future or indeed our imagination. Mark Twain famously said, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”  How often do we men w

The Courage to Ask for Help Men often carry the weight of expectations—be the provider, the protector, the one who holds it all together. But here’s the truth: real strength and being a man isn’t about doing everything on your own. True strength and a good measure of a man is having the courage to say, “I need help.” Research shows that we men are less likely than women to seek support for our mental health challenges. Today’s society often pushes us men to believe that vulne

Changing your mindset is challenging, especially for men, this difficulty is compounded by our upbringing along with our early year and educational conditioning and traditional values. Psychological research suggests that once we have made up our minds on important matters, changing them can be as difficult as stopping a speeding train about to derail. From a young age, we men are taught to embrace traits like self-reliance and not to show emotion. While these qualities can s